May 1, 2022
These people have a pattern in their lives that if someone doesn't validate their view, not even criticizing their view, then "you are not validating me." "My view is me," they can't make a separation. The suffering that comes out of that is that "this makes me unworthy." Then they become angry. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, they are so angry at people all the time that people do start rejecting them. It's really clear that when we take things personally when our view is not validated, we are identified with our thoughts, views and opinions.
And when I reflect on this, I've done the same thing. I can think of instances in my life where someone didn't accept my view, I take it personally and do what these people do. I may not do it to the same extreme.
Identifying With Thoughts and Feelings, talk by Geoff Dawson, December 4, 2021 Ordinary Mind School of Sydney
See also: Undeniable Realities and Zazen
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